We’re going on our first family holiday with P’s folks this Christmas to Japan, one of my favourite countries in the world. This is actually P’s first family holiday EVER – almost 30 years and never a family holiday! My belief that this is due to, in part, his family’s indecision. I’m extremely lucky that P is generally a pretty decisive person so I don’t have to deal with this in my day to day life, but his family?
It took us months and months to decide to go to Japan – first it was Taiwan, but it’s apparently too boring (not so!!), then it was Thailand, but it’s too hot, then it was Malaysia, but it’s too dirty, and then it was Hawaii, until I realised it would cost us over $10,000.00 for 10 days. The decision was finally made a little while ago – P’s dad suggested Japan and got us all excited, so P and I put an end to the madness by booking our tickets before everyone else, so they all had to book to come with us. But everyone was really happy, so I thought that was that.
Then came the questions – “It’s really cold in Japan at Christmas time, why are we going to Japan? Doesn’t Japan close down over the New Year period – what are we going to do? What about radiation? Why do we have to fly out from Osaka? ” I’m really worried about what’s going to happen when we’re there – “should we day trip to Hiroshima? Nara? Kobe?” – and spend the best part of the day trying to decide, and by the time we decide the day’s gone.
Being a really decisive person, I’d be inclined to take charge, make an itinerary and say “let’s go here, here and here”, but this seems too (for want of a better word) anal for a family holiday.
We’re not in Japan for long and I don’t want to spend most of my time sitting in a hotel room trying to make decisions, so my question is – how do you deal with indecision? Particularly when tiptoeing around family and in-laws, who are like to get grouchy when something doesn’t go their way? Is it better to have a take-charge approach, or just let everything happen as it comes?